More on the whole hookup culture thing that I recently wrote about. This guy gives us his opinion of it all, which is that men are horrible, women shouldn't try to be like them and ner ner you can't anyway.
It's pathetic that this is what is now deemed "progress" among the
feminists -- attempting to ape the most selfish, brutish behavior by men and
calling themselves enlightened and empowered for doing so.
As is typical, he just doesn't get it. He cannot conceive of the idea that people might have casual sex with someone they don't despise, but let's just pretend that it is true that a) all men are dogs who just want to use women for sex and throw them away, and b) there's no chance of this ever changing.
What the fuck is in it for women to be good then? Fuck that! If men are going to be like that, then you can be damn sure I'm going to be too. Why would I want to stay pure so I can be one of the good, virginal women who'll win one of these prizes as a husband one day? Or why would I want to be the kind of woman who has sex but cares deeply about every man she fucks so I can be truly miserable when I get treated like this?
No, I'll be as callous as they are if they're going to be like that. Fortunately I have a higher opinion of the human male than this person does. There are a couple of decent ones out there... Or so I've heard..
via Pandagon
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apparently they exist..it might be a urban legend though
I'm not sure if there are many of us left [is mr Swift joshing or is he truly arrogant and deluded?].
I don't really know what the REAL situation is out there regarding men, and their attitude towards women, apart from personal experience, which in my perception is (and it's not rocket-science so you won't be surprised) - younger men especially, are so in the thrall of their cocks, they'll behave in shitty ways in order to get into your pants; yet they delude themselves into thinking they're something other than slathering, pussy hungry, brain-dead, cock-centric animals. No one should underestimate the male sex-drive, it's powerful, amazingly so. So to an extent, you can't blame them because of this. But I have no reason to believe it's not the same for women too. I've known a woman intimately (oh God, if she gets to read this I'm dead) for over 20 years, and for most of that time she was the dirtiest, horniest, most glorious fuck a man could ask for. And I have no reason to think she's not typical of her sex. I'm sure the only difference between the sexes is cultural, in that women, from the start, are receiving signals telling them they're good, pure, and the caring sex, pre-destined for motherhood and wifery; which is probably crap. So given there's no compelling underlying reason not to, why shouldn't they exploit their sex-drive too, and have some fun. When some men insist otherwise, I'm sure it's out of insecurity; a power issue. Go sluts, go!
Well, I think there's a difference between liking sex for it's own sake and being and outright asshole, but maybe I'm deluded. Certainly some men are driven to lie and cheat and steal in order to get their jollies, but as more and more women are happy (and aren't so heavily chastised) for liking a roll in the proverbial hay for no reason other than "cos" then there will be fewer reasons for men to romance when they don't really mean it and all that, and the only ones still being shitheads will be like that because they are shitheads.
It's a good point. Looking back at what I've said, I seem to be assuming women, or most of them, want to hear certain things, and there are plenty of unscrupulous men around to oblige them simply in order to get their jollies (good term, I'll try to include it in my sexual lexicon). As you say (and you ought to know better than I) if girls nowadays are happy with sex for it's own sake, then maybe it's just the males who have a totally mistaken idea about females. Thinking about it, it makes sense. Men too get exposed to a lot of social signals (mostly from other males) so maybe and there's an outdated idea being passed along from generation to generation of what women really want. In the meantime, you're all having a great time, and laughing at us in the process. Goddammit!
Has a Rick Astley search term turned up yet?
Well, actually I wouldn't know about all women, probably it's different for everyone. I'm sure there are women who want love and romance and commitment and all that, not just because of socialisation but because that's just how they are, then there are some who don't care, and then some who like it sometimes, and aren't fussed either way other times. It's quite possible that not all men are exactly the same too, but I'm not so sure of this:)
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